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Tuesday, November 30, 2021

A Christmas List

 "Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners - of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life. Now to the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory for ever and ever. Amen." I Timothy 1:15-17 [NIV]


Image: Steven Dalton
The tiny little calendar at the bottom of my computer screen indicates that we are now on the verge of that magical month of December. It must be true. Traffic is thick, Christmas trees are strapped to the tops of vehicles in a haphazard temporary adornment that makes each car look like they have a mohawk....needles trailing in the backdraft and sprinkling the roadways. "Good King Joy" as performed by my ultimate favorite Christmas music group "The Trans-Siberian Orchestra" is pumping from my Youtube speakers a little too loudly...

It MUST nearly be December. It must be Christmas.

Much like little Cindy Lou Who, however, I'm askin' that question. Where ARE you Christmas? I'm havin' a difficult time findin it amongst the recently experienced 11 months with out income, the miscarriage of our oldest son's first child, the fun little bout with Noro Virus, the pneumonia suffered by our oldest granddaughter, TWO  emergency surgeries that lead to an additional admittance through the ER sprinkled on top, Papaw Babb's room was ready in Heaven this year ... and oh yeah, in about 24 hours, for all intense and purposes, the Dalton Gang will be homeless.

Image: Steven Dalton
The hard truth of Christmas 2021 is that as a species, we are ALL dealing with a growing list of similar struggles and heartbreak thanks to that fun sounding virus that hit us all square between the eyes. And while it might FEEL like Christmas just isn't gonna happen this year. At least, not in my heart ... it's actually BLOOMING all around me in shimmering gold, red, and green brilliance. And unlike my grumpy, haggard, self-absorbed....self - the blooming all around me isn't just a bunch of people going through the motions to satisfy the little ones. They aren't scratching up the tops of their mohawk cars with zombie-like expressions and vacant-eyed stares. They are smiling. They are laughing. They are plugging in every light within a tri-county radius and putting plastic Santas up in their yards. They are buying in with money from their own pockets to keep a small struggling farmer's market open. They are standing out in chilly weather with a guitar for tip money because they have no home, no family but are givin it everything they've got. They are standing in front of Walmart with a big fluffy Santa hat and a bell and smiling at all the stressed out shoppers. Get this ... they are SINGING along with the Christmas music!

How?!

Why?!

Well. Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves repeating. Christ Jesus came to the world to save us. All of us. Every. Single. One. And while I don't technically have a home in which to put up a Christmas tree, I AM still going to celebrate! Because the simple, glorious, fantastic and amazing truth is - no matter how UNChristmas I FEEL, it's still happening. Whatever crazy wobble experienced by our little blue marble doesn't  alter the beautiful fact that Christ Jesus Came to the world to save us. To save me. The worst sinner of all. 
Image: Steven Dalton

God showed ME mercy. I don't deserve it. I never will. But to glorify the ONE GOD, I can give that mercy back. To glorify GOD, I will celebrate Christmas. To glorify GOD, I will praise Him and shout it out from every mountain top that Jesus Christ was born!! Amen!!

Pardon me while I attempt to locate the Rudolph nose and antlers that go on the front of my car.


Monday, November 15, 2021

Everything You Want

 "And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast." I Peter 5:10 [NIV]


Image: Scientific American c.1962

Looking up into the blank white of our little pop up canopy at the Local Wares farmer's market, I listened for the light pitter patter of scattered rain drops. Of course it was raining. 

While actually extremely grateful for the break in the heat, I couldn't help but be disappointed by the low foot traffic. No body wants to walk around in a cold drizzle just to get a little shopping done. 

Boo.

Watching my fellow brave vendors duck under tents and frantically grab the additional Velcro tent siding, all manner of plastic covers and bags in an attempt to keep product dry, I found myself pondering if we humans would really be better off if we got everything we wanted? What if we always had perfect weather? What if we always had plenty of food on the table, or never got sick? What if our little brand spanking new farmer's market weren't struggling to compete with the older better established markets in our area? What if we had so much foot traffic that we sold out of our products?

Hmmm.....

Turns out, a scientist by the name of John Calhoun wondered pretty much the same thing all through his career in the 50's and 60's. By the 70's, he had created a mouse utopia that would come to define all mouse utopias. It was seemingly, mouse heaven.


This thing had condos, little hide away nooks and crannies, all the food and water and snackos they could possibly want. Utopia.

Then it all went terribly, terribly wrong.

Fit and healthy male mice started "hoarding" female mice of a certain health and appearance. These female mice were dubbed "the beautiful ones." And they lacked for nothing. The male mice would defend a certain number of the beautiful ones, make sure they had food and were protected from the increasing number of squabbles and societal deterioration. And, very shortly after this development, the beautiful ones stopped breeding. They stopped doing pretty much everything but eat and sleep. There didn't seem to be a reason for them to do anything else. No young to raise. No food to procure. 

In short. No purpose. No challenges. Just ... existence.

A vast number of papers, predictions, and observations came out of this little experiment. Much of what was learned is actually still hotly debated by people studying human psychology in a variety of situations. But the one thing that stuck out for me? The little boogers NEED challenge. They NEED a sense of purpose and encounters that challenge the brain.

If tiny little mice can fall completely apart whenever they were provided with a Utopia and lacked for absolutely nothing? .... what would happen to human brains? To human society?

I know. People aren't mice. In fact, one of the biggest arguments against any conclusions drawn from Calhoun's mice study IS the fact that human beings adapt. The mice couldn't make any changes to their environment, they weren't able to change their behaviors in order to present a more positive life experience. 

Humans can and do. And while this IS a valid point, I can't help but think of the very simple correlation between things that impacted the little mouse community - ok, HUGE mouse community - and the things that impact OUR societies and communities. 

Do we REALLY, really benefit from getting everything we want? Well, for the scientific community of testers and box checkers, the jury is still out. But I don't think we have to search the papers and theories and documentation put out there by "people in the know" to glean what we should about our own mental health and fitness in this regard. It's very plainly expressed in black and white. To butcher one of my favorite movie quotes: "they conceal information like that in books." LOL

One book, to be exact.

When Peter wrote the verses penned in this first book named for him, he very clearly pointed out that we, as a species, are going to be tested. Our faith is going to be challenged. We are going to have to face some pretty intense obstacles in our lives. Word for word? We are going to suffer.

And. In this humble writer's opinion. We need to.
Image: Scientific American c. 1962


Would the EMT that suffered 3rd degree burns be the empathetic EMT he or she is when addressing a fellow man with the same condition if they couldn't attest to the pain that specific injury's caused?  Or they psychiatrist working through a patient's clinical depression that has learned a trick or two about survival due to her own mental health issues, would she be the best psychiatrist in her field if she couldn't reach out and at least touch the issue with a degree of personal understanding?

These scenarios are deep. But I think it's even simpler than that. When we get everything we want, when we face no troubles, no challenges, no rain clouds - we no longer NEED to be NEEDED. And we no longer NEED ourselves. 

To hurt, to struggle, or as Peter put it, to suffer - MAKES us reach out. We reach out to others. We reach out to Jesus.

We reach out to Jesus.

Plus, we'd miss out on all the rainbows. So there's that.


Wednesday, November 10, 2021

Monya Babb's Guide To Eating An Elephant

 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." - I Corinthians 10:13[NIV]



Tiny droplets of really cold rain hit the tips of my toes as I stood looking out over the soggy back yard through the open door. Light was just beginning to pop up in vibrant pinks, peeking over the tops of our trees. Hidden by low cloud cover but for short little bursts of blinking and twinkling glimpses through the gray.

Our first Nor'Easter of the year put a bit of a damper on our Saturday Farmer's Market plans. All of the markets in our surrounding area know to close up shop while the winds blow.  As if on que, a gust of wind shook the chimney and set the oak trees to dancing up again. 

And I'm frustrated. I can't sell FiddlyBits stuff, if our market isn't open. 

I can't make more new product to fill some gaps in our inventory right now [a good use of a rainy day], because we have been informed that the owners of the home we currently rent, would like to sell while it's still a seller's market.

The frustration mounts. I can't really dig in and box up our house right now [another good use of a rainy day], as I have already blown threw what few packing supplies we had.

The space behind my eyes starts to tighten up. We can't exactly run out an apply for housing right now. Steven's employment is still recovering from 10 months without income - which leaves us with a credit score laying limp and bleeding out rapidly on the floor. 

And as my toes start to freeze from the rain, the sun is making a good attempt at coming up all the way, I take to the Keurig and make a cup of Southern Pecan coffee. 

And sigh.

It feels insurmountable. This big Elephant in the room. The giant sitting right in the middle of the things I need to get done. 

Ages ago, when I was still in my teens, I found myself faced with a big issue. I can't even remember what the issue was now, but I will always remember what my Mom said to me at the time. "Kelly, how do you eat an elephant?" 

I'm sorry, what? 

She stopped whatever it was that SHE was doing to approach me, look me in the eye and ask again, "how do you eat an elephant?" 

My first thought was, why would anyone want to eat an elephant? Then my brain went right to wondering why she was asking me this. I couldn't see where she was going.

"One bight and a time". She finished. 

I love my Mom.

She's absolutely right. And then she shared I Corinthians 10:13. I love it when a verse FINALLY breaks through. The first thing that struck and stuck? I haven't been given anything in this life that somebody somewhere hasn't probably already been through. My situation isn't new to God. It's only new to me. Right now, in this space. God already knows what's going on and that brings me to the second thing that went off like a light in a dark attic. God is ALWAYS faithful. 

Just. ALWAYS.

He will never give me a thing that through Him and with Him I cannot handle. Sometimes, I want to see myself as the strong individual God seems to "think I am". lol. I must be some kind of Amazon or something. Or it feels that way sometimes.

But the truth is? We are not faced with ANYTHING that isn't common to mankind. 

In other words. It FEELS big and scary right now. But we are not the only ones in this particular sinking boat. The whole world is in recovery and survive mode. Maybe not in exactly the same way, but we are all being faced with a reality that no one anticipated.  We all have an elephant of some size sitting in the middle of the things we need to get done.

Sometimes? The Elephant is sooooooo big? It really is better to focus on the fork, just, keep your eyes on the fork. [Read, Jesus] Before you know it, the giant thing will have disappeared, one single bight at a time.

God's got this.